We're a working class couple with two kids and a third every other weekend. We've tried to have date night before but due to lack of money, lack of baby-sitters and being just plain lazy, it always disintegrated into watching X-Files re-runs and going to bed early. We tried looking online for ideas but either came up blank or found the same tired cliches (how many Italian meals do these web sites think we can eat?). So here we are; tired, lonely, bored and frustrated. First step, re-committing to setting aside a few hours on a designated night just for ourselves. Second step, find something to do together, with a few rules thrown in. Third step, remember that this is not just about something to do, it's a gift of time to our partner. We thought we'd track what works for us, what doesn't work for us and share what we learn about being parents, having jobs, having no money and still finding time for each-other. After all, we got married because we're madly in love and like being together.



Good things come in pairs.

So last week we didn't do Date Night. Not because of lingering bad mojo from the week before (although there was some that got worked out Thursday night) but because we had very good friends in town from very far away for a very short time. We could have done Date Night on another day last week, but with one thing and another, we just couldn't find the time.


This week was a really bad week for him at work and he never really had time to figure out something to do. So Friday, at the end of another long day, he made a suggestion for Date Night.
We're not going into details but we'll tell you this much - it's something we like to do, are very good at doing, never get a chance to do as often as we'd like and ist's very, very fun to do.


This is something built into Date Night anyway (we felt like we didn't have to tell you folks about this part) but what made this extra special was the amount of time devoted to it and the amount of time to bask in the afterglow afterward. Being able to do things this intimate together is pretty important and when you can spend a good amount of time doing it, it's better.